Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most amazingly simple things that we can ask when we want to learn about someone else.

Dale Carnegie in his best selling ever book, \”How to win friends and influence people\” shares about the power of asking interesting questions to show that we are interested in connecting with someone else.

You\’ve probably been to a party and you\’ve been the one asking the questions and doing most of the listening? If you have you will probably attest that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting – funny that! You probably did less that twenty percent of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!

If you\’re a guy and ask some great questions, you will often find yourself jumping to last-base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.

If you are a lady and want to stroke a guy\’s ego and make him feel good then ask lots of interesting questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!

Despite the ego-stroking that can happen, if you ask and listen there is also a genuine side to the picture as well. Because people who\’re genuinely interested in someone else, are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.

Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions – which are always better.

Here\’s 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl

1. If you\’re a waiter and a customer was super rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or think about doing this?

2. What was your favourite Halloween dress up costume as a child and why?

3. If you could choose to have dinner with five people – real of fictional – who would you invite and why?

4. If in an instant you could become an invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?

5. If someone made a funny comedy movie about your life, which part of the story would be the funniest and why?

6. What was your fondest television character when you were a young child? What was it that you liked about them?

7. If you had a chance to go back in time and do something that you feel you should have done what would that be?

8. What\’s the funniest experience in your whole entire life?

9. Have you ever gone on a date with someone who is so much taller or smaller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?

10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?

11. What\’s the worst lie you\’ve ever told in your life? Where you caught out?

12. If you instantly turned into a woman for a day, how would you spend that day?

13. When you meet someone for the first time and you do not like them what would you normally do?

14. What\’s the highest priority for you when considering a partner – good looks, intelligence, sense of humor, or something else?

And now let\’s get a little more risqu! Obviously you would have had a few drinks before asking some of these questions!

15. Have you ever been caught with no clothes on in a public place – if so what were you doing?

16. What\’s the difference between making love and having sex for you and which do you prefer?

17. If you could change the age that you lost your virginity, would you?

18. What are your biggest sexual turn-ons and turn-offs?

19. Have you ever been unfaithful to your partner and did they find out? If so, what happened?

20. Have you ever been caught touching yourself sexually? If you did, how old where you and who caught you?

21. Have you ever serial sex – with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?

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